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All you need to know about divorce and parenting plans
Divorce… To lawyer up or not to lawyer up [...]
This thing called Fear
If your thoughts are running around all over the place we lose sight of the Word and the Truth of God so easily. You have to train your mind, through praise and worship, reading His word and praying daily. You have to wash your thoughts (not just your hands) with His Word and His Voice. I have 5 points that you can read through if you are overcome by fear today, whether it is because of this virus or your children, your health, your finances…whatever might cause you to feel fear and anxiety.
True Love or Trauma Bond – Are You Trauma Bonded?
A trauma bond can be thought of as running on a never-ending hamster wheel, where periods of intermittent reinforcement (love, promises and kindness) are combined with periods of physical, emotional and psychological abuse. The more you want to get off the hamster wheel, the more you feel confined to the wheel and trapped in the movement to keep running. The cycle becomes toxic as the need to regain the feelings of infatuation that were felt at the beginning of the relationship, leads the victim to repeatedly forgive their partner in order to return to the good feelings associated with the relationship.
Hou jou kind so besig gedurende hierdie tyd van sosiale issolasie #COVID-19
Sosiale issolasie is op almal se lippe en vir almal van ons met kinders beteken dit een ding. Ons moet op “stock” op “snacks” en by bly met aktiwiteite om ons kinders besig te hou!! Alhoewel sommige ouers baie kreatief is en dit geniet om nuwe speletjies uit te dink is dit vir ander ‘n groot kopseer.
Online sessions with Vita Nova Counsellors & Humanitas Students
We understand the current situation is causing a lot of fear, anxiety and stress and we would like to assist as far as possible. Under normal circumstances, we would prefer to offer counselling sessions in person. Seeing as social distancing is the responsible reaction to the situation at hand, we have decided to make our sessions available online.
What is the goal of counselling?
It is heartbreaking that many people judge the psychology world by the picture that Hollywood has painted for us. In countless movies the psychologist is portrayed as a know-it-all guru who traps people in an extended, dependency driven relationship. There is a big fluffy couch where the patient will lie down and share their story, while the distracted ‘shrink’ continuously asks “how do you feel about that” and bluntly stops the session the moment time is up. In many movies the client never resolves issues and is just told to come back next week. In light of this I am overjoyed to tell you that most counsellors sees this portrayed image and goes out of their way to break and correct this view of the counselling world.
The “perfect parent”
Does being a good mom mean that you pack the perfect lunch box, does it mean that you serve on all the “mommy committee’s” available, does it mean that you never miss a cricket or tennis match or does it mean that your house is always tidy and you’re children are excelling in academics or sport activities?? Unfortunately to some extent these are the measures you’re being “judged” on if you are a parent in the year 2020 and for a lot of mommies this makes sense. We live in a world that is performance based, that is, if you do not excel in something you are seen as a failure.
Paastyd is opoffer-tyd; is jy ‘n Noag?
Alhoewel Noag se naam nou nog oor vertel word en in die Woord van God vir ewig staan, dink ek nie dit was 5 ster nie. Definitief nie gemaklik nie, hy moes sy gemak opoffer. In Romeine 5 staan daar: “Ons verheug ons ook in die swaarkry, want ons weet: swaarky kweek volharding en volharding kweek egtheid van geloof en egtheid van geloof kweek hoop”
Help! My Child is biting others
The act of biting amongst children under the age of 3, is the child’s way of expressing frustration and anger. Children of this age and under do not have the vocabulary to express their anger and frustration so they act it out.
A child with depression
One of the biggest symptoms to look out for is a depressed mood or loss of interest or pleasure.